So sorry to hear about your miscarriage - planting a living memorial is a lovely idea.

Does it have t be a shrub? I'm thinking of a hellebore (like a christmas rose but a bit later and easier to grow) There are now many beautiful varieties, straightforward to grow and long lived. When you do move it can be planted in the garden in a party shaded spot.

There are lots of Azaleas that flower round about that time if you really want a shrub, but as a non gardener the Hellebore might be easier. Why not have a look on Google at both of them? If you choose an Azalea it will need acid compost, sold as ericaceous compost.

If you want something that eventually will be a big shrub a winter flowering honeysuckle might suit you as it is sweetly scented but if you don't know where you'll be moving to its a bit risky if you don't know if there will be room for it.

Lots of advice on here about planting and care when you have decided what you want.

If the position is shady, you could plant a Christmas box (the Latin name is sarcococca). Not only does it carry tiny white flowers in February, they are also very highly scented.

Remember that the ashes are highly alkaline, so they are likely to burn the roots of anything planted in a pot.

Thank you very much for the ideas. I really appreciate it. I don't have ashes, so hopefully this will not be an issue.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I was thinking of snowdrops. A lot of them bloom in February. Crocus? When they die back, you can plant a pelargonium. I'm writing this as I look at my patio pots all with pelargonims. They look terrific and are so undemanding.

Thank you, Bathgate.