Have I killed my parrot plant?

I think your plant is in fact a Lotus bertholetii, or parrots bill.These plants do like sun but don't over water-a golden rule with grey foliage plants.It might benefit from trimming back and a feed. Hope thats of help.

Yeah, it is a lotus plant. it is still early in the yyear, so you should go with first answer and cut back, so new growth has time to regrow

I cut back the plant. there was hardly any healthy leafing left - but enough. However, it was real, real wet. I took it out of the pot and got rid of all of the potting soil around it except for the dirt around the root ball. It was soaking wet. I'm going to let it dry out a bit so it doesn't rot. Yes? No? any suggestions from anyone? And does anyone know how much sun I should give it daily? I live in Murrieta, Ca and it can get pretty hot here. Thanks All!