Onwards and Upwards
By labdancer51
10 comments
On Saturday we collected Jake`s ashes from the vet. They are in a beautiful wooden casket with a brass plaque with his name on. We were both very touched at how nicely they have been presented. With previous dogs we were just given a plain ceramic jar. I think its because when our vet took over the practice she made a lot of changes, one of which was obviously the cremation service. The company charges exactly the same as the one before but provides a much more personalised service. We are both very impressed which again is a great comfort. I must admit that a few tears were shed yesterday though.
I`m very grateful for the kindness of you all since we lost Jake, it`s such a help and a comfort when I was feeling so miserable. You can`t mope around all day and expect everyone around you to feel miserable because you are so you just carry on and act as though nothings wrong when you are out of the house. On the computer though its different. GoY has been like a kind of therapy and I`m so much better for it. My gorgeous boy has gone but the memories of him make me smile many times through the day.
I`ve hung his collar and lead around the key box on my kitchen wall. I just like to look at it as I walk past, silly isn`t it that little things like that make you feel just that bit better.
yesterday my 4 yr old grandson Roman who adored Jake ( my very best friend he called him) asked me for some photos of him to put in his bedroom. I offered him some and he chose his two favourites and took them home. My daughter had gently explained that Jake was very, very ill and the vet just couldn`t make him better and that now he had joined Hannah in doggy heaven in the sky. He was very upset but after a while he seemed to have accepted it. Then he asked his mum how Jake got up there seeing as he didn`t have any wings. Kerry, my daughter, told him that he didn`t need his body any more and that he just floated up there. He hasn`t asked any more questions but he did tell me where Jake had gone and that he was happy now. Children really do understand far more than I think we give them credit for.
Now things are settling down we have told Roman that we will be looking to get another dog after Christmas, he is very happy about that and is looking forward to it as much as we are. :o)
Bye Bye for now.
Sandra xx
6 Dec, 2009
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What a lovely boy, I've just read through your other blogs Sandra. So sad but many happy memories. xxx
6 Dec, 2009
It's good that you're feeling a bit brighter Sandra, i hate hearing people so upset :-/
6 Dec, 2009
glad you feeling a bit better sandra, i know how you feel as ive just lost my angelina, i to will be getting her ashes in about a week, will be better for you to get back to some normality once you have the laid jake to rest im sure, take care x
6 Dec, 2009
Hi Sandra...
You've made lots of positive moves this weekend...
.... and it will be fun after Christmas planning for a new dog....
..not to replace wonderful Jake.... but as a compliment to him... that you would like another Labrador Retriever. :o)
6 Dec, 2009
Bless you Sandra, we broke our hearts when we collected Malik`s ashes and we have never placed him under the water feature even though he was the reason for buying it, his casket is lovely and its still in its carrier on the shelf in the dining room, not on show but in a corner. I find children seem to accept the loss quicker than us and that is good and I don`t think you are silly as regards his collar and leads,we do exactly the same here in fact we still have a collar belonging to Shandy a dog we had over 30yrs ago,as you can imagine we have quite a few pet treasures...
Brynner gives us a lot of joy and yes there are always memories and tears still for Malik but a lot more smiles now.. XX
6 Dec, 2009
I'm glad we were able to help you through the sad time Sandra. It's nice you were able to explain it to Roman aswell.
6 Dec, 2009
Hi LabD51 good 2 see u on GOY & feeling better :)
7 Dec, 2009
I was devestated when my cat died - I'd had him 18 years (longer than my children!!) and I just couldnt stop crying - it got to the point that I felt people felt it was only a cat - but all my love and heart went to him and it was just like loosing someone you love - but I look back now and se pictures of him and it does get easier (although I swear I can hear him sometimes jumping down from the table!!!)
7 Dec, 2009
i know exactly what your saying Genuisscruffy, having just lost angelina last wed, i feel dead inside, its the worse feeling and cant snap out of it, i hear her to and i call her name when i come home, miss her so much :o(
7 Dec, 2009
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I was touched by your lovely blog its so sad when a beloved pet dies. Children if given the facts cope well dont they.
When my Chelsea died aged 18 I thought I would never have another cat that was Millenium day, then 10 days later we were asked to give an abandoned black cat a home (he had been in a cats home for 3 months). We were unsure at first but that was nearly 10 years ago and we love him to bits. So good luck and happy memories.
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