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This is the hardest blog that I have ever had to write, and there is no way that I can break the news gently to you.

Our adored younger son, Steve, died two weeks ago – asleep in his bed in Cornwall, from a heart attack. The worst news in the world. It was so sudden that we have been in a state of stunned disbelief – but we have now driven the 300 miles to Falmouth twice to sort things out.
This is beautiful Falmouth where he lived for 10 years.

It has been consoling to meet his wonderful colleagues who all said what a lovely, kind person he was. He helped them all (they said he was the ‘go to man’ in the department) and was always patient, but made them laugh too. They organised a service in their chapel last week, and later I invited them all – plus his close friends – to a peaceful garden with a café where we shared our precious memories. He was marvellous company, and we were lucky to have him in our lives for 46 years. But we shall miss Steve forever.

For therapy, I walked with my husband in Trellisick Gardens, where we saw this amazing Hydrangea petiolaris climbing 60 feet up the bark of this tree.

An enormous Pieris ‘forest flame’.

I know that you will all understand why I am not posting much on here for now: thank you.

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Dear Sheila...I will PM you...

My thoughts are with you and your familyx

3 Jun, 2019

 

Sheila, I am so sorry to hear your sad news. We will all be thinking of you & your hubby. Nothing much we can say really to help at such a time. God Bless.

3 Jun, 2019

 

Sorry Sheila...I pressed like...you know I don’t mean any disrespect I hope..just trigger happy habit. I am so sorry to read this tragic news. I don’t have any wise words for you...just want you to know that I feel so sad for you. So sad.

3 Jun, 2019

 

Thank you all very much . . . I knew you would feel for me.

3 Jun, 2019

 

Unbelievable news, to lose a child. Nothing I can say will alleviate your pain, but my thoughts are with you.

3 Jun, 2019

 

I am so very sorry to hear your heartbreaking news Sheila. Your son was only a few years younger than me. How awful to lose a child no matter the age.
My thoughts are with you both and your family at this terribly sad time. xx

3 Jun, 2019

 

Words are inadequate. Heartfelt condolences.

3 Jun, 2019

 

Sheila, the tears are rolling down my cheeks after reading this sad news. What a dreadful shock for you and your family. My condolences to you all ... x x

3 Jun, 2019

 

Oh Sheila, I am so so sorry to read your devastating news. I can't begin to understand how you must be feeling but send you all love and sympathy at this terrible time. X

3 Jun, 2019

 

Oh Sheila! That is just awful. I have two sons of a similar age. I can't imagine how you must be feeling.
Love Linda xx

3 Jun, 2019

 

Sheila, I don't have the words to make it better but I send you my love and deepest sympathy.

As you know we visit Falmouth quite a lot. From now on I shall always think of you when I am there and have a quiet moment just for you.

3 Jun, 2019

 

Oh Sheila that is the worst possible news parents could ever have , please accept my deepest sympathy ,I'm so sorry for your loss ... Xx

3 Jun, 2019

 

Oh Sheila I have been there and my heart goes out to you. hang on in there. I learned one lesson - don't try to be brave, it doesn't pan out well in the end.

3 Jun, 2019

 

My deepest sympathy to you at this most sad time.

3 Jun, 2019

 

what else can I say? Lots of hugs and thoughts to you and your family.

3 Jun, 2019

 

My deepest sympathy to you and your family Sheila x

3 Jun, 2019

 

So sorry for your loss, thoughts are with you x

4 Jun, 2019

 

So sorry to hear your very sad news my deepest sympathy Denise xx

4 Jun, 2019

 

Thank you SO much everyone. All your lovely sympathetic words really do help - just to know that you feel for me means a lot.

4 Jun, 2019

 

Very sad news Sheila,I am so sorry,take good care of yourselves.

4 Jun, 2019

 

Sheila my heart goes out to you, nothing I can say would ever make this better for you, I honestly cannot imagine the pain you are going through, please accept my sincerest condolences to you all for your loss, xxx..

4 Jun, 2019

 

Thanks so much Callie and Sue; we are looking after each other and taking one day at a time. x

4 Jun, 2019

 

Sheila, so sad to hear about your loss. I can not begin to understand the loss that you are feeling. When I experienced a great loss the garden has always given me a place to retreat to, hopefully your love of gardening might help in these difficult times.

4 Jun, 2019

 

You’re so right Amsterdam - my garden is a great solace and comfort. In Trellisick I bought a lovely Uncinia rubra and keep it by a bench where I pretend Steve is sitting beside me. Thank you for your comment.

4 Jun, 2019

 

So sorry to hear your heartbreaking news of your precious son. You are in my thoughts.

5 Jun, 2019

 

Thank you Gerardine.

5 Jun, 2019

 

Deepest sympathy on your sad loss of your son

5 Jun, 2019

 

Thank you Marjorie.

5 Jun, 2019

 

Thinking of you at this sad time. I have two sons similar age so can sympathize with your loss. Chin up x

6 Jun, 2019

 

Thanks Thorney - life goes on, and we are trying to do normal things.

6 Jun, 2019

 

Oh Sheila,I have only just seen this...I am so very sorry for the loss of your wonderful son,and my thoughts are very much with you and your family..I really can't begin to imagine what you are all going through..xx

8 Jun, 2019

 

Dear Sheila, I have only just seen this blog. So very sad to read about your son Steve. Our thoughts are with you and your family. Alan & Wendy x

8 Jun, 2019

 

Thanks so much Sandra: yes, he was wonderful, and a friend to anyone who needed a friend.

Thank you Alan and Wendy :)

9 Jun, 2019

 

Sheila and family: Sorry to be so late to send along my sincere sympathy. When our children come to us we think that we shall be the ones who will leave first and it's a terrible blow when they leave us here to mourn their going. My husband and I send our heartfelt condolences. xx

21 Jun, 2019

 

Thank you Lori. We are about to meet our Aussie family with two little granddaughters on Vancouver Island: it will be bittersweet because Steve should have been with us, but hopefully we’ll have fun along with the tears.

21 Jun, 2019

 

Sheila. I just got back from New Orleans for work. I'm at such a loss of words I don't know what to say: Only that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I was greatly saddened to hear of Steve's passing. I'm reminded of the passing of my best friend & Father. My father was truly my best friend and though I'm 1 of 6 of his children, he made me feel especially loved and cherished and he was always on my side. That's what I think about, the blessings he left behind - for me! He's still very present in me.

21 Jun, 2019

 

It’s always sad when someone dies Paul, and I’m so sorry that you have lost your dear father. I think I know how you feel because Steve was such a dear friend to me too, always simply wanting me to be happy while I wanted the same for him. Thank you for your thoughts.

21 Jun, 2019

 

Just saw this blog even though u told me Sheila it's so very sad and I know only to well the loss of a much loved son. Xx

24 Jun, 2019

 

Thanks Sandra, yes it’s heartbreaking. I lost it on the plane coming over to Canada yesterday for a holiday where Steve should have been with us - but luckily no-one could hear me sobbing ... xx

25 Jun, 2019

 

Aww Sheila I understand that, I can sob looking at Johnny's favourite milk shake in Tesco! When them tears come we can't stop them.
But that's a mother's love xxx

29 Jun, 2019

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